I married my husband because I wanted to have the deepest level of commitment possible to him. That ceremony, eight months ago, was a symbol of how much we love each other, and how much we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives. It was held so we could promise to be there for each other, to work as a team, to have one shared life instead of two separate ones. We certainly didn’t have to get married – we could have been domestic partners, especially since we have a child together. But we wanted that tradition, that extra step, that ceremony, to really cement that bond.
Now, I imagine being unable to have that. I imagine what it would be like to be barred from having that level of symbolic connection. I imagine not being able to have the legal rights that go along with being married. And I’m saddened at the thought.
Everyone deserves to be able to have that commitment to their significant other. And because this is America, and because we have separation of church and state (IN THEORY), religious definitions of marriage should not stand in the way.
Prop 8 was unconstitutional and just plain WRONG. It should NEVER have passed. I’m now hoping like hell that it gets overturned in legal review, because as proud as I am to be an American today, that pride is diminished by the knowledge that Prop 8 is now law. Let’s hope our new president, who is, after all, a scholar in constitutional law and civil liberties, picks judges who will hear the case fairly. Even if Obama himself doesn’t agree with gay marriage 100%, let’s hope that he picks judges who will interpret the law in a fair manner – and who will tell the State of California that we cannot just block people who love each other from getting married.